Thursday 1 December 2016

GF and BF relationships of 21st century.

In starting of  every relationship, we feel very much excited about each other. Everything what we do together becomes a "first time" thing for us. First time going to shopping, first time eating pizza together, first time watching movie in theater,first time hugging,kissing and bla bla bla... .But these first time things end in one or 2 years if we consider 21st centuries relationships. Its because now a days, everyone is in a hurry of doing as much thing as they can in less time. That's good also in some cases but here its different.  So when two peoples have spent so many good days together and made so many beautiful memories find out that now there is nothing new in their relationship, they lose excitement of being in a relationship. This happens either from one side or both. Mostly its from one side. 

One of the reason behind why this happens is that, we decide to get into relationship in very less time, without observing each others behavior. We even don't know  small habits of each other. In starting phase , we are so much excited as we are doing many things first time with someone, that we don't observe each other. But the sad part is, when the excitement is gone , all first thing are over, we come back to our boring life then we start to notice the annoying habits or behavior of our partner. We start complaining , judging and end up with breakup. 

So what i think why this happens is - we don't want to be alone . We want someone who can listen to us. So we try to get into relationship asap. I don't think its wrong, i just think somethings should  be changed to make it right. In my views , instead of getting into relationship , we can still continue to talk to each other and try to understand whether they are of our type or not. And when we have understood each others behavior, nature, habits and everything which we need to know, and still we are ok with that. Then its the right time to get into a relationship.

6 comments:

  1. Great article. :)
    But I think there is another aspect of it which is much external to it. Whole ecosystem (Social, economy, hobby, changing interest) affects the relationship. In early days we seems to much into each other and don't think about external effects. However after sometime external ecosystem starts to come in picture...

    Just adding another dimension to it.

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  2. Very good insight,
    1 more aspect is that, it is a continuous tedious job to keep on trying and to keep on updating the known facts,, and relationship is not only about happy memories or intresting life , it also includes dealing with bad times ,, boring days, losing interest and fighting all the circumstances to survive and be happy

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    1. First of all thanks for giving an extra dimension to my thinking. I agree with you.Relationships are not only about interests it's more about committment. Committment of being together at all times no matter what...

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  3. Sorry,, my comment publoshed as unknown

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